Mommy needs a break sometimes too.
My partner has been working strange shifts these past couple of weeks, and it has really taken a toll on our family. Ok..well it has taken a toll on me. My routine is all turned upside down and I have felt like I am treading water barely staying afloat.
This got me thinking, when was the last time I have taken a time out for myself?
I honestly couldn’t remember.
I did remember one time with our daughter Marlow. It was a particularly awful night with her when she was a few months old and I hid in the bathroom and had a good cry for awhile while dad took over parenting duties.
I read a book every night before bed when everyone is sleeping because it helps me wind down from the day. Even if it is only a page or two.
Does that count?
Why Moms Need Time Outs
I remember putting my son in a time out when he was younger, and I remember it being more challenging for me to have him in time out because he hated every minute of it. He would scream, he would cry, he would fight back to get out of it. I eventually gave in because my head most likely felt like it was going to explode.
That really backfired on me.
Marlow is too young for time outs, but she tests my patience every day. She is busy and on the go night and day and every day after that. The second I tidy up our house, the Tasmanian devil has spun through again leaving her path of destruction. I sometimes find myself wishing that someone would break in while we are out and clean up the place for us. I am still waiting for that day. If anyone is thinking of getting me a Christmas gift, this is one I really want.
I think as moms we forget to take time for ourselves.
I know for myself, I get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and making sure that everyone else is taken care of and that I keep my humans alive and that they are not eating electrical cords, or sticking forks in the sockets that most days I haven’t even had time to shower.
I look at the clock when I finally have a minute to breathe and its time to start dinner, or start the bed time routine and I automatically say “well I’ll shower tomorrow”, “I’ll do it tomorrow”
Never, Now. I need to do this for myself now.
How To Do A Time Out – Mommy Style
Depending on what your home life looks like there are a number of options that you can easily integrate in to your schedule. Here are a few ideas to help get you started:
Take a bath – There is tons of home made bath apothecary out there right now. Pick some up and make it even more relaxing!
Read a book – Something other than a parenting book. Something that you would have read pre-baby.
Take a walk – Around the block, to the corner store, anywhere. The fresh air will do wonders for your soul.
Take a nap – Ask your spouse, a friend, or a family member to watch your baby while you catch some zzz’s. I know I get right loopy if I am seriously lacking sleep.
Meditate – This one is a must for me. Calms my mind, my soul, and is the ultimate relaxation method for me. If you are a newbie, there are some good apps you can download to help get you in the zone.
Get a massage – This is especially awesome if your benefits cover massage therapy. I get so sore from breastfeeding and carrying around a baby all day and massages work wonders.
Go on a date with yourself – Take yourself out shopping, see a movie, or go for lunch.
Pamper yourself – Get your nails done, or your hair. It’s amazing how a little self-care can make you feel like a whole new woman.
Watch TV – Sometimes just vegging on the couch for an hour zoned out at the TV can be all you need to take a break. Throw on a good show, cozy up under a blanky and grab some snacks!
Journal – If you find writing is a great stress reliever than take some time to journal about your day, life, dreams, hopes, wishes. Whatever, just write.
Colouring – Get in the zone and colour in an adult colouring book, or just steal one of your kids when they aren’t looking. Colouring is a great way to get out of your head.
What Are My Mom Friends Doing For Time Out Time?
I put a post on one of my social media accounts today to find out what other moms in my life were doing to take a time out and get away from their families. Here are some of the responses:
– Favourite time away from spouse/kidlet is going to the shooting range!
– I have a bath EVERY night before bed and I get to ditch them for a good 30+ mins. I’d die without it.
– Hot Yoga
– Pretend I’m going to the bathroom but really I’m just hanging out playing with my phone and half the time they are knocking at the door anyway. Not my favourite way but sometimes the only way.
– Massages and face masks.
– Go for a walk alone, or lunch with a girlfriend.
– I love to get up before baby and have a cup of tea outside on the deck. Even if that means getting out of bed at 5:30am. Because those sleeping bubs are like ticking time bombs. When she wakes up I don’t know for sure when I’ll have time to myself until dad is home from work.
– Go shopping alone
– Go to the gym
I don’t think it really matters what you do, just as long as you do something. Make yourself a priority once in awhile and stick to it. Go outside and jump in puddles if thats what makes you happy, or stare at a wall in silence.
Being a mom is the most important job you will ever have. It is also the hardest. I know that in order for me to be productive and function at full capacity, I need to remind myself to slow down and fill my tank.
Do you have any special ways that you like to take care of yourself?
Share them in the comments, it might just help the next mom who reads this!